Yesterday I turned 21! I am at that stage where I feel old, birthdays no longer excite me, well my own don’t anyway. Although to some turning 21 is still a picture of youth, it is fair to say that a lot has gone on in those short years. I have had some good memories and some bad but most of all I have learnt a lot. When life gives you lemons aye!
Here are a few of the things that I have learnt which I feel everyone should take note of.
You will get criticised no matter what you do, so go ahead and do your thing.
No matter where you are in life or whatever you have achieved, you’re going to get criticised. If I decided to listen to every piece of negative feedback ever thrown my way I’d be nothing, sat in a dark room never seeing daylight again. Just be you, someone somewhere will always have an opinion.
Being a dick gets you nowhere.
We have all had days where we have been an asshole for some reason or another. Just last year I snapped at my younger brother for hogging hole 7 of Crazy golf. Wasn’t my best move and I instantly regretted it. Did it make him move? No, didn’t make him feel great either.
Being a dickhead is horrible. Be kind. be humble and smile.
Christ. Don’t judge someone unless you’ve been in their shoes. A lot of my life is documented through social media, so you can imagine that people think they know every little detail about me but that is far from the case. In fact, if I am honest there’s about 75% of my past that I haven’t shared. All the bumps I have stumbled across in life, all the lows, they have always been kept to myself, and that is the case with many people. People are so quick to judge others by the little snippets of their lives that they see and that should never be the case.
We make no mistakes, only lessons that we need to master.
Everything that happens to us in life, both good or bad most of us learn from. With this in mind do we ever really make mistakes? I see it as we have lessons to be learned. If you don’t learn from mistakes chances are your life will forever look the same.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. The moment you forgive somebody, chances are you will also give them a second chance. Treating them not as they are or even once were but more as you wish them to be, by doing this you allow them to grow and become better and better with each passing day. You don’t forgive because you are weak, you forgive because you are strong enough to realise that only by giving up on resentment will you ever truly be happy.
Perfection doesn’t exist so stop looking for it!
Whether it’s a job, a lifestyle, a partner or something else entirely different, there will always be trade-offs. Not teeny-tiny Trade-offs, oh no! Significant trade-offs. Life is a long journey of compromise. For as long as you look for perfection, you will never be able to settle.
Lastly. Choose to spend time with people who lift your spirits.
This one might seem pretty obvious to some but don’t we all have friends who drive us crazy in a multitude of ways? It may seem easier to hold on to the relationships of those that have been part of your life for a good amount of time but a lot of those relationships can be physically draining as well as emotionally. By all means don’t cut them off completely. Just make sure that you’re spending most of your time with those who make you smile and feel your best.